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Ohana Means No One Gets Left Behind

By A. Devia

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"Ohana means family. Family means no one gets left behind." - Lilo from Lilo & Stitch, Disney

"Ophelia," I said, "I heard from her yesterday. She asked for the name of a store and then she said she misses me."

"Really?" Ophelia asked as she sat down and got comfortable. She knew something juicy was coming.

"I miss all of them, but I still feel so betrayed. And her first contact with me after months was to ask for something?"

"I heard that they think you're a hypocrite for claiming family is the most important thing to you. They don't think you know what family is," Ophelia said.

"Ha!" I laugh bitterly. "Really? I don't know what family is? Every choice my husband and I made, it was with the best interest of all of us in mind. Every choice he and I both made were with the best interest of the whole family in mind."

"They don't know that."

"Of course they don't know that. Where were they? I was in the midst of weaning off my medicine, in the midst of a bipolar episode. I hadn't slept more than 2 hours in the last 36 hours when my whole life exploded. And where were they? My husband and I were left to deal with a life and death crisis, to shuttle a family member from doctor to doctor, hospital to hospital. Where were they?"

"I don't know. They should have been at the hospital with you. Just like that time you were at the hospital with them. You stayed at that hospital for days. And you made sure their kids were taken care of too," Ophelia reminded.

"I never stopped speaking to them; I never blocked them, unfriended them, cut them off from my life.  And yet, I'm the one who doesn't understand the meaning of family? I'm in the middle of an emergency, and they didn't call me.  They didn't make sure my kids were fed dinner that night. They didn't offer to help. Didn't bother to ask for the facts of the situation. They just jumped ship with a handful of lies. It was like everything I'd done for them meant nothing. That somehow, suddenly, I was this villain, just become someone said so, and none of our history, nothing they came to know about me over the last few years weighed anything. Every time they had a problem, I was right there helping. And it meant nothing to them. I never turned my back on them. I honor family. I'm the one who got left behind. I'm the one they left alone in a crisis. And now, what? I'm just supposed to forget it all, because she misses me?"

"I know sweetie. It wasn't fair. It still isn't. It reminds me of that time Anggur spread lies about the Yaidalize Goddess, Lilatheen, and convinced some members of her family to betray her."

"Really?" I said. "I don't think I know that one." 

"Well," Ophelia replied," open the Kalakon and connect, I'll bet you it's in there today."

“A family is a place where minds come in contact with one another. If these minds love one another the home will be as beautiful as a flower garden. But if these minds get out of harmony with one another it is like a storm that plays havoc with the garden.”― Gautama Buddha

I hold the Kalakon, close my eyes and connect to the Akashic Records, pulling for the story Ophelia mentioned. I open the book and begin reading:

The Ones Who Came Before

"Some say that the oceans of the world are salty like our tears to remind us of our connection to a larger truth." - Lilatheen
In that far off time, in that long lost land of Ocaloania, while Damial was conducting his investigation for Ragar and Lilatheen into the tremors and other disruptions, a series of unfortunate events happened. This story, like many of their stories, was recorded in antiquity and handed down from generation to generation.  Parts of their stories can be found in the Rig Veda, the Poetic Edda, the Torah, and many, many other places, but they got some details wrong.

History is written by the victors, is it not?

Anggur, the God of Lies, plotted against us with Visvar's three sons.  The God of Lies told these young gods and the Davier high council that Visvar took Lilatheen hostage and locked her away in one of his many fortresses.  They were told that Visvar was plotting to cause a great drought that would kill all the crops and starve the peoples.  

Word of this deception reached us in Ocaloania and Lilatheen despaired and raged. While she had come to live among the Ocaloanian tribe long ago, she was from Davala. They were her people, her family and they were being deceived.  The wise, gentle and kind Visvar was a three headed dragon, and child to Lilatheen.  He could be seen by Lilatheen's side,  trying to calm her, as she paced the high walls in a fortress in Ocaloania.

"Mother, why are you so agitated? Look, you already make the ocean lick the walls," he said, gesturing to the choppy ocean below with waves crashing beyond the rocks to reach the fortress walls.

"I will not tolerate this betrayal!" she yelled, dark eyes flashing with anger, as a large wave crashed against the wall. More quietly now, she continued, "The prophecy is coming true.

I saw there wading | through rivers wild
Treacherous men | and murderers too,
And workers of ill | with the wives of men;
There Nithhogg sucked | the blood of the slain,
And the wolf tore men; | would you know yet more?

There feeds he full | on the flesh of the dead,
And the home of the gods | he reddens with gore;
Dark grows the sun, | and in summer soon
Come mighty storms: | would you know yet more?

On a hill there sat, | and smote on his harp,
Eggther the joyous, | the giants' warder;
Above him the cock | in the bird-wood crowed,
Fair and red | did Fjalar stand.(1)

Treacherous men and murderers walk our streets.  A ghost wolf haunts our lands. The cocks are crowing. The prophecy stands. A storm is coming!"

"Mother, do not worry yourself. I will go among the Davier to promote peace, just as you came to the Ocaloanians."

"You must not confront Anggur, it will be your death and we will be lost." She quoted more prophecy,

"Brothers shall fight, and slay each other;
sisters’ children shall violate kinship;
Hard is the world with much whoredom
A time of axes, and place of swords, Shields are cloven.
A place of wind, and time of wolves, ere the world sinks.
The ground resounds with the gift of flight
No man will another spare. (1)

"Don't go!" She ordered.

We all feared for our safety.  Some of us left, sailing to other lands; I pray they landed upon high ground.  

Eventually Visvar cheered her. "Trust me Mother, I can reason with my half-brother and my sons. I will convince our kin of the wisdom of peace."    

"I know the pieces fit 'cause I watched them fall away. Mildewed and smoldering. Fundamental differing…The light that fueled our fire, then, has burned a hole between us." - Schism by Tool

Visvar found Anggur, but negotiations failed. Anggur returned Visvar's middle head to Lilatheen in Ocaloania and war ensued, the Second Great War between the Gods.

Lilatheen, oh, Lilatheen.  Distraught doesn't begin to explain how she felt her people, both her beloved tribes torn asunder. Anger, rage, sorrow…still not enough.  Words aren't enough.  Listen hard to the music that others refuse to hear and maybe you will understand the pain.

"Staring down the end of time, every fear is realized. Crying out it's much too late, nothing we can do to save. For the time has come." - Waters Rising by Alter Bridge

The waters of the world were unleashed.  Visvar was not causing a drought as the Davier were led to believe, Anggur was planning for a flood of epoch proportions.   When Lilatheen is stirred to great emotion, unless she tries very hard to counter it, the waters, all waters are stirred to great storms. Whole worlds mourned the passing of Visvar and other loved ones Lilatheen lost in the Second Great War. As a consequence, they mourned their own deaths, as well. Then Lilatheen mourned all the harder upon witnessing the unintentional devastation she wrought on her peoples.

(1) Poetic Edda: Voluspo. 39, 41,42.

Washing Away our Problems

I closed the book. "Hmmm…Ophelia, I see why you thought of that time. Flooding the whole world certainly sounds like a feasible way to resolve my problems!"

"You know, I always thought the people who wrote the Noah's ark story, stole it from Lilatheen," squeaked Ophelia.

"Really? Noah's Ark? That story is ridiculous. I always thought that story was full of holes," I responded.

"What do you mean? It sounds plausible."

"Maybe in another universe! Come on, two of everything? Noah was somewhere in Africa or the Middle East right? How did he get sloths and kangaroos? And insects, how do you have only two ants?"

"Well…maybe the kangaroos flew in."

"Kangaroos with wings?"

"I was more thinking that Noah had wings, but a Kangaroo with wings sounds like fun!"

"Does it jump then fly? Or does it fly then jump?"

"It takes a big hop then flies and when it lands, it hops a few times to slow down," responded Ophelia in all seriousness, "No wheels, you know."

"Speaking of hopping! Two rabbits?" I continued, getting worked up now. "Those fuckers breed like crazy! You'd have 100 by the end of 40 days! And let's not forget genetic diversity.  You really want to tell me that every creature on the planet is inbred but free of the complications that come from inbreeding?"

"So, back to the point, what are you going to do?"

Ego says, "Once everything falls into place, I'll feel peace." Spirit says, "Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place." - Marianne Williamson

"Well, since that whole mess started, I've been working on finding balance in my life.  I know who I am; I know I'm a good person. Others will see and believe what they want and there isn't anything more I can do about it other than continue to be myself. I am at peace with myself. If I hold true to who I am, the rest of the world will take care of itself."

"You aren't going to go talk to her?"

"I'm certainly not going to chase down the company of people who don't appreciate me."

"Mike: 'I'm sorry for what she's putting you through.'
Kyle: 'What choice do I have? She's family." -Last Man Standing S3, Ep20
"If, while on your way, you meet no one your equal or better, steadily continue on your way alone. There is no fellowship with fools." - Dhammapada
"Fools with no sense, go about as their own enemies, doing evil deeds that bear bitter fruit." - Dhammapada


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